BISMILLAHIR RAHMANIR RAHEEM
IN THE NAME OF ALLAH, THE MOST GRACIOUS AND COMPASSIONATE, THE MOST MERCIFUL
Endless prayers and appreciations are due to Allah, for granting us the privilege of being humans, endowed with the incomparable gift of sense, thus being able to dichotomize between the ideal and the worse. Endless greetings and salutations are due to our Noble Muhammad Musthapha ﷺ, the undying light of beings living and the lifeless alike, his entire household and companions; who once said;
“Marriage is my tradition, and whoever dares to reject my tradition, is never part of me (my blessed umma).” May the endless peace of Allah be enshrouded on him, Amin.
Dear reader! We are very much elated to have brought to your disposal today, an interesting discussion that will acquaint you with the best guidance of being the forerunners of imitating the Prophetic tradition (sunnah) which is quite more than imperative to the life of a Muslim, yearning for perpetual guidance, i.e. the issue of marriage after choosing a spouse .
Al-Nikah (النكاح) is an Arabic word which is derived from the literal meaning al-ijtima’u (الإجتماع), meaning mating, but however, accepts the fundamental meaning as marriage in the English context. Marriage in Islam is a social and religious union between a man and a woman. It is an act of worship which is recommended to Muslims who are in the position to manage a family.
Marriage involves not only the union of a man and woman but also, the gluing of two families to assume a perpetual relationship, full of love and concern for one another.
In order words, marriage thus compounds two families, such that they indulge into the intricacy of sharing the two diverse phases of life together.
However, in our contemporary society, marriage is misconceived as being unanimously in line with the organization of several activities that do not last longer as they are planned and anticipated. These misconceptions had pushed our societies negatively, their enthusiasm and feelings for marriage, simply because they cannot afford to indulge into what will be seen coolness and pleasant to the eyes of the masses, even those who remain neutral and Pontius palates, are perplexed and puzzled and they become accessors too.
Dear reader! We all need to submit our attention at this point to the Divine commandment in the Noble Qur’an and the exalted Prophetic tradition, in order to explore the pearls of truth and practical approach to marriage, for the human mind and sense have been created to reach truth and goodness in the light of the Qur’an and Sunnah.
Allah, be He Extolled, Belaud and Exalted, says in the Noble Qur’an”: “And if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with the orphan-girls then marry (other) women of your choice, two or three, or four, but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with the wives), then (marry) only one or (the slaves) that your right hands possess. That is near to prevent you from doing injustice.” The light of beings, ﷺ, also said in a narration from the mother of believers, Aisha R.A that: “Marriage is part of my Sunnah, and whoever dares to reject my sunnah is not part of me (my blessed umma). Get married, I will boast of your great number before the nations. Whoever has means, let him get married, and whoever does not, then he should fast for it will diminish his desire.” 
Dearest one, since we have had the two, out of other commandments of Allah and the Prophetic tradition on marriage, which alone are the best manuals to guide our lives towards righteousness, it is now clear, the necessity of marriage in maintaining the faith of a Muslim. It is also clear that, the assertion by some Muslims that marriage is not rigidly part of the religion, can best be described as a dilapidating kitchen of falsehood, and when one ignorantly and or otherwise passively accepts the marriage disclaim, would get in to a dangerous state of being wrapped up in his/her own troubles and miseries. Allah guides us.
It is also imperative to understand the differences in the degree of emphasis on marriage, which varies from individual to another, based on the enabling and disabling circumstances engulfing him/her.
Islam as a religion, under the Divine guidance, is very conscious not to wave spells on individuals that they won’t be able to leave it. In order to have a marvelous adventure in this endeavor, scholars have digested the four categories of men and their status quo in the marriage jurisdiction. Among men, is the one whose marriage is a Wajib (compulsory), another whose marriage also is a Mustahab (recommendation), also the one whose marriage is a Makruh (unpleasant) and as well the one whose marriage is Haram (prohibited). Astaghfirullah!
Let’s now expand each category to understand the emphasis :
The first category is the one whose marriage is compulsory. This is the category of a person who is materially privileged (wealthy), sexually active and hence cannot live without a woman. This person’s marriage is mandatory, obligatory and or otherwise compulsory because if he lives without a wife, he will indulge into zinah, Subhanallah. Allah forgives our shortcomings.
The second category is the recommendatory category. This is the category of a person who is also sexually active, and thus cannot live without a woman, but in conviviality, he is materially underprivileged (not wealthy), thus, he can take a little or no care of a woman. This situation, therefore, mounts a challenge on relatives and closed ones, more especially; even if it demands that his people will contribute an effort to get him married and find him a job they should do so because of the danger of falling into immortality since he cannot fully control his manhood desire.
Let’s look at the third category. This is the category of a person who is also materially privileged but not sexually healthy. There is the danger of the person marrying a woman who will finally be pushed to commit adultery since her husband cannot fulfill her sexual desire. The marriage of a person under this circumstance is unpleasant.
We are now in the last category. In this category, we are looking at the situation of a person who is materially underprivileged and as well as not sexually healthy. He can neither take a wife’s responsibility nor fulfill her sexual desire. This person’s marriage is prohibited in the Islamic jurisdiction but however, does not attract any punishment, it would only attract punishment when the wife is pushed by the sexual malady of her husband to commit adultery (zinah), and the man would be given a percentage of his wife’s punishment. Allah guides us in all actions.
My dearest one! at this point, I am much convicted that you can point out from the four categories where you belong to, and that is a big reason why you should be up and doing in order to fulfill your intention. Rising up to fight for your goal is the only thing that differentiates a dream from a vision. And also bring close to your memory, that man cannot discover new oceans unless he has the courage to lose sight of the shore. Other details about marriage would be discussed in subsequent topics, Insha’Allah.
Allah is the Most Exalted and He Knows Best!!!
 (Suuratul – Nisa’e, Qur’an 4:3).
 (Sunan- Ibn Majah, vol 3, Book 9, Hadith 1846).