Muslims attending funerals none-muslims
“please Shaik, are we expected as Muslims to attend traditional funerals?  if no, then can you refuse if your parents send you because I see it as a way of honoring Satan.”
All praises are due to Allah, the peace and salutations of Allah be upon our Noble Muhammad Mustapha , his household, and companions which will endure until the Day of certainty.
As humans and for that matter Muslims we need to always subject our attention to the command of Allah in order to always dishonor the Shaytan (Satan), in that; we should always embrace the will of Allah and do away with ours. Allah Has commanded a lot in the Qur’an and in some instances remained mute. The command of Allah also comes as a result of instances and circumstances engulfing a situation, henceforth, before we understand the ruling of Allah we should look at surrounding instances.
We need to first of all look at the rationale behind the organization and attending of funerals. The common aim pervading the two phenomena is seeking forgiveness for the dead and praying to Allah for the deceased to live eternally in perpetual bliss. If our purpose of attending the funeral is geared towards this very reason, then it becomes prohibited for us to do. As in the words of the Noble Qur’an:
 مَا كَانَ لِلنَّبِيِّ وَالَّذِينَ آمَنُوا أَن يَسْتَغْفِرُوا لِلْمُشْرِكِينَ وَلَوْ كَانُوا أُولِي قُرْبَىٰ مِن بَعْدِ مَا تَبَيَّنَ لَهُمْ أَنَّهُمْ أَصْحَابُ الْجَحِيمِ
 It is not (proper) for the Prophet and those who believe to ask Allah’s forgiveness for the Mushrikin, even though they are of close after it has become clear to them that they are the dwellers of the Fire (because they died in a state of disbelief). [1]
In some instances also, some are new convert Muslims and for that matter have many relatives and close ones who are still non-Muslims, which in most often than not includes parents who have not embraced the true faith yet, yes I mean Islam. Attending the funeral of these relatives and closed ones is not prohibited in Islam. The Qur’an says:
 لَّا يَنْهَاكُمُ اللَّهُ عَنِ الَّذِينَ لَمْ يُقَاتِلُوكُمْ فِي الدِّينِ وَلَمْ يُخْرِجُوكُم مِّن دِيَارِكُمْ أَن تَبَرُّوهُمْ وَتُقْسِطُوا إِلَيْهِمْ  إِنَّ اللَّهَ يُحِبُّ الْمُقْسِطِينَ
“Allah does not forbid You to deal justly and kindly with those who fought not against You on account of Religion and did not drive You out of Your homes. Verily, Allah loves those who deal with equity.” [2]
Among the schools of taught are those who consider attending funerals of non-Muslims permissible and nothing is wrong with that. For instance, in the Shafi’i school of taught, it’s abundantly clear that one can attend the funeral of non-Muslims and there is nothing wrong with the person’s faith. Only with a precaution to do away and not engage in any practices in the funeral activities that go against the laws of Islam; such as pouring of libation, consulting of gods and ancestors, taking alcohol, drumming and dancing, and many more vices that Islam forbids. They make reference to the Hadith in Bukhari:
حدثنا عبيد بن إسماعيل حدثنا أبو أسامة عن هشام عن أبيه عن أسماء بنت أبي بكر رضي الله عنهما قالت قدمت علي أمي وهي مشركة في عهد رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم فاستفتيت رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم قلت وهي راغبة أفأصل أمي قال نعم صلي أمك
 (صحيح البخاري: 2620
It is narrated by Sayyidatuna Asma bint Abi Bakr (radiya allahu ‘anha) that during the treaty of Hudaibiyah, her mother, who was then pagan, came to see her from Makkah. Sayyidatuna Asma informed Rasulullah of her arrival and also that she needed help. Rasulullah said: Be good to your mother! [3]
As for the command of your parents, we should find a more perfect way to communicate with so as not to invoke their anger.
ألله تعالي أعلي وأعلم.
Allah Is the Most Exalted and He Knows Best!!!
Allahumma salli alaa Muhammadin wa Alihii wa Sahbihii wa Sallim…
[1] ( Suuratul-Tawba,Qur’an 9:113)
[2] (Surah al-Mumtahanah 60: 8)
[3] (Sahih Bukhari: 2620)

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